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What type of mom will Kate Middleton be?
All eyes have been on the Duchess of Cambridge since she announced the royal baby's arrival in July. Along with scrutinizing her maternity clothes and speculating what baby items she'll purchase, many are already buzzing about what type of mom she will be.
Rosie Pope, star of Bravo's “Pregnant in Heels,“ said in a Parenting.com blog post: “Traditionally, the royal family has practiced a very hands-off parenting style. Attachment Parenting is certainly not what comes to mind! As fate would have it, Princess Diana ended up changing the face of royal parenting with a very hands-on approach, which at that time surprised the nation, and exposed what we all came to love about Diana: her loving and nurturing nature. I am sure Kate (and William) will be far more like Diana than the Queen in her parenting style. However, Kate will be a working mom, and will have to juggle the balance between motherhood, a life under the media's glare and a heavy workload of public service both in the United Kingdom and around the world.“
According to an Us Weekly article: “Kate will be a firm but fair mother, predicts one friend of Middleton. Another longtime pal of the pregnant royal told us that Kate's top priorities will be to keep her child grounded despite the little one's privileged upbringing. Kate will let her children have fun and freedom, but she will also make sure they do what is best for them.“
In addition, on Yahoo! Shine, one writer asked if Kate will have a baby shower. “Baby showers are an American tradition, not a British one, though no doubt well-wishers will send the parents-to-be plenty of presents. As they did for their wedding, the royal couple may encourage friends to make a donation to charity instead.“
The writer also questioned if queens and princesses breast-feed. “Queen Elizabeth was breast-fed, and she chose to breast-feed her children, though a case of the measles forced her to wean Prince Charles when he was less than 2 months old. The Queen's younger sister, Princess Margaret, did not breast-feed at all. According to her biography, Princess Diana breast-fed both Prince William and Prince Harry.“
I feel badly for Kate. It's hard enough being a first-time mom — as with anything new, there's a learning curve. I remember the scrutiny I felt when I was pregnant with my now 2-year-old. Friends, family, co-workers — even strangers — bombarded me with questions: Will you breast-feed? Are you going back to work? Who will take care of the baby? What are you naming her? Sometimes I wanted to scream, “Leave me alone!“ But as every new mom finds out, what you thought you'd do pre-baby typically changes after he/she is born.
So what if I chose to go back to work? My husband and I made the best decision for our family. We made sure our daughter Maggie was well taken care of. She's healthy, thriving and smart as a whip. That's what matters most — not what I chose to feed her or how I decided to raise her. Why can't people focus on Kate as a person, instead? Or better yet, leave her be and let her make her own parenting decisions.
Elena Mauer, deputy editor of TheBump.com, agreed. “Kate is a very family-oriented woman and also loves children,“ she said. “She will be a very nurturing and affectionate mother. It's obvious Will and Kate are an affectionate couple and are often seen arm-in-arm and laughing together. They'll be very hands-on parents, fully involved in their child's life and trying to create as normal of a childhood as possible.“