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Free book offers tips for raising great kids
In her new book, "20 Great Ways to Raise Great Kids," author and psychologist Toni Schutta addresses the importance of proactive parenting and offers tons of expert advice on how to raise children to become successful, respectful adults.
Schutta pointed to these seven parenting trends as some of the most important:
Giving kids more responsibility. The most reliable predictor of a child’s success as a young adult is whether a child had chores growing up. Try using fun ideas such as playing Cinderella while cleaning, creating a bidding war between kids to do chores and practical tips like developing a bedroom score sheet.
Reversing the “helicopter” parenting trend. Parents are advised to stop over-parenting and learn how to criticize kids. Focus more energy on the marital relationship and limit organized sports.
Limiting the use of electronics. Use practical ideas such as creating media-free zones in the home and establishing a coupon system to help limit kids’ electronics use.
Being consistent in discipline. Learn how to set up effective family rules, curb back talk and get kids to listen.
Avoiding the entitlement trap. Things like asking children to do two kind acts per day, creating a daily gratitude ritual and volunteering help raise generous kids.
Teaching essential life skills. Parents today are doing too much for kids. Instead, parents can teach kids a five-finger problem-solving method, how to delay gratification and express empathy.
Lowering stress and preventing burnout. Record numbers of kids are experiencing stress, over-use injuries and burnout in sports. It’s recommended that kids take one or two days per week off from a sport, take two or three months off per year from a given sport and sometimes play pick-up games without adult supervision to bring fun back to the game.
For more on these tips and other advice, check out "20 Great Ways to Raise Great Kids," which is available for free online.