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Debra Messing talks parenting and Outstanding Mother of the Year Awards
"Will & Grace" actress Debra Messing was honored at this year's Outstanding Mother of the Year awards in Manhattan last month.
After eight seasons playing the role of Grace Adler on the hit television show, Messing went on to star in USA's miniseries "The Starter Wife" and NBC's "Smash." She also appeared on the big screen in "Along Came Polly" and "The Wedding Date."
In 2004, the Emmy and Golden Globe Award-winning actress became a mom to son Roman Walker. Here, she talks about motherhood and how she balances it all.
Q. How do you feel about being honored at the Outstanding Mother of the Year awards?
"I'm overwhelmed and humbled to be a part of this incredible, innovative group of women. I'm proud and emotional. I'm thrilled that my mom was able to be here. She was my first and remains my most potent role model. So I feel like in honoring me they're actually celebrating her.
Q. Now that Roman is 9 years old, how do you balance it all?
"One hour at a time. I think that being a woman is incredibly challenging with the financial difficulties that our country is facing. Every mother has to work. Every day we're forced to make sacrifices and compromises -- and they're painful. But having said that, I think my son knows that he is my No. 1 priority and I think the people that I work for know and respect that. That is a huge thing and I'm so grateful for it. I feel so blessed to be at this place in my career that I'm able to set paramators for how I can work. As the Global Ambassador for World AIDS, I'm able to speak on Capitol Hill -- these are life lessons for my son and he understands the significance of them. I'm doing my best, and every day is not always great."
Q. What advice to do you have for all the moms out there?
"Be kind to yourself. Educate yourself. Try to cultivate patience. Take it hour by hour, if need be. Know what you need -- emotionally, spiritually -- and learn to accept that in order to honor those needs, sacrifices and compromises must be made. I'm not able to take every job offered to me and travel the world with my son in tow being home schooled or tutored. There's something romantic about that life, but it doesn't make me happy. I have limited job I will entertain in order to protect the stability of my life. But I'm most whole when every part of my brain and soul are challenged and stimulated. There are indeed times when my work is inconvenient; however, in the end, I believe it helps me be the best mom I am able to be."